FAQs

Humans are very complex beings. The Lifestyle encompasses many different levels of play and types of relationships from swinging to exhibitionism and many more. Polyamory is a love relationship that can cross into many levels of the Lifestyle. Polyamorists can be male, female, bi, straight, gay or swingers, exhibitionists, voyeurs, naturists etc.

Polyamory means "loving more than one". This love is primarily emotional, not sexual, but this love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the individuals or groups involved.

"Polyamorous" is also used as a descriptive term by people who are open to more than one emotional relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one.

Polyamory in it's most basic sense is responsible, honest non-monogamy, as opposed to what society commonly calls "cheating". In a polyamorous relationship, the partners involved all know about one another, and are consenting. The major elements in most polyamorous relationships are: honesty, openness, and plenty of communication.

Polyamorists believe that the addition of a new partner does not detract from the love given to the first partner, nor does it in anyway imply that the first partner is lacking in any way. Much time and effort is spent in a polyamorous relationship to assure that everyone involved is comfortable, secure, and that all their needs are met.

Polyamory has a great deal to do with your personal feelings and emotions. Most lifestyle couples have one emotional bond to their primary partner and experiment in the lifestyle for the excitement of the sport. A polyamorous person may or may not experiment in the lifestyle, but are open to multiple emotional bonds with more than one life partner. Since we are dealing with feelings and emotions, there are literally thousands of different combinations than can bond people together in Polyamory.

Polyamory is being called the New Relationship Paradigm.
Many people are questioning the long-standing idea that love must be limited to a single individual. Is it possible to love more than one person successfully?
Many people are asking this question, and some are pleasantly surprised to find that it is viable.

This is not to say that polyamory will work for everyone, but there are many people in the world who are simply not molded for a monogamous lifestyle. The members of that small group of people are beginning to reach out to one another, and seek support, friendship, and love. In the polyamorous community you will find a variety of people and relationships, all with one thing in common: an agreement that non-monogamy is natural and acceptable, if practiced in an open and honest way.

Are you polyamorous?
Well, we can't answer that question for you, only you can do that, but perhaps as you continue your research, and learn more about what polyamory means, how polyamory is practiced, and even communicate with other polyamorists, you will find that answer within yourself.


Threesomes

Threesomes MFF FMM FFF MMM
Have you ever wondered what threesomes are truly like? Have you fantasized about adding a third person to your sexual play? Are threesomes for real or just stories on an adult video? You will find out some real information on how to find them.

Since most swingers in this adult lifestyle are couples, the art of finding a willing third partner can be difficult and frustrating if you don't know where to look or how to ask. Many couples will ask a friend or advertise in some form of media first. In most cases these two methods of adding a third partner end up with terrible results.

Male Female Female - MFF
Most new couples traditionally look for a bisexual female first, usually because the majority of females are bisexual or bi-curious. Couples get very frustrated looking for a single BI female, because they are rare and not willing or able to accommodate all the large numbers of couples who are looking for them.

Most couples looking for a single BI female will place ads in newspapers, magazines, on the internet or tele-personals with very little success. The main reason for the unsuccessful attempts are very simple, most BI LADIES are married or have a male partner and will not answer any of these ads looking for a single BI female. Ask yourself this simple question if your lady partner is bisexual, would you be willing and excited about your female partner heading out alone to play with another couple while you stay at home. Most married ladies would not want to do this, nor do their male partners get excited about this idea.

The majority of all MFF encounters take place in larger groups at adult lifestyle clubs or private parties. The biggest advantage here is that the fourth partner can watch or is involved in a FMM encounter at the same party. Some couples will even turn to lies to get a second female by telling a couple that they are looking for couples and will spend all of the intimate and private time with the lady.

Female Male Male - FMM
This is a big fantasy for many couples. Finding an extra male to play with your female partner is quite easy, the problem is finding the right one, with a good attitude and who will not fall in love and get attached to your female partner.

Most couples looking for an extra male will place ads in newspapers, magazines, on the internet or tele-personals with overwhelming responses, but little success in selecting the right person. There are many predators out there and many men cheating on their wives.

In many cases, it can take you a great deal of time and effort to review and respond to one hundred replies to find a few suitable candidates. Many couples find this method of contacting suitable males, time consuming, frustrating and dangerous. Some single males will get attached or try to see your female partner on the side. Some males have even gone to the extreme of threatening to expose your lifestyle to your friends and family if they do not get what they want. Many single males don't often keep meetings very private. Married men who are cheating on their partner will keep meetings private, but many marriages are destroyed by this type of activity.

The quickest and safest method for FMM encounters is in larger groups at adult lifestyle clubs or private parties. The biggest advantage here is that the fourth partner can watch or is involved in a MFF encounter at the same party. Since most couples are already emotionally attached to each other, the risk of the male getting emotionally attached to your female partner is greatly reduced. Some couples that are married and very active in the lifestyle will also play separate from their partner at parties or separate homes, vacations etc. The more couples you get to know in the lifestyle will definitely give you many opportunities to explore FMM encounters in safety and truly for the enjoyment of the sport.

Female Female Female - FFF
The majority of ladies in the lifestyle are bisexual. It does not take a great deal of effort in pairing or grouping several ladies together for bisexual play.

Not every lady will be willing to play with just any other lady. There is always some form of attraction required to make things hot. Most threesomes with FFF are often found or encouraged at adult clubs or private parties. Most women truly enjoy the touch of another female, so getting two ladies to play with your lady can be a lot of fun for her and your viewing pleasure.

Some lesbians or lesbian groups will advertise themselves as a bisexual club for ladies, in an attempt to attract other women to play with. These groups may sound interesting at first glance, but many of theses groups will not want swing couples to apply and will not want any males in attendance at their events. Lesbians prefer females first and foremost, compared to bisexual ladies that prefer the opposite sex first and the same sex as an added bonus to their sexual play. So in your rush to meet other ladies, it is important to determine if you are bisexual or lesbian.

Male Male Male - MMM
Not very common or asked for among most swing groups, but more and more interest for experimentation from the ladies is encouraging the men to perform for the ladies benefit.

Many more men are bisexual than wish to admit it. But being bisexual still focuses the primary attraction to the opposite sex. Most MMM combinations would be extremely rare at off premise clubs, you are more likely to see males experiment with their bisexuality at on premise clubs or private parties.

Most bisexual play between males in the swinging lifestyle is oral, masturbation and other mild levels of sexual touch and cooperation when playing with a female, such as double penetration in a vagina or a woman giving oral sex to both men at the same time


Voyeurism

Voyeurism Might Kill You!
Many couples in the swinging lifestyle are voyeurs. Do you like to watch other people? Maybe you ask your partner to not wear any underwear and love watching when they sit or bend over. Many couples love to watch others safely in adult clubs or in the great outdoors. Having sex in while watching your partner or others is always fun!

Voyeurism is healthy, but be very careful where you do it.

I'm glad no one saw us having sex on this rock!

I would love to cut her grass!

Why don't people notice I'm not wearing underwear! Do you like to watch?


Exhibitionism

Many couples in the swinging lifestyle are exhibitionists. Do you like to show off your goodies? Maybe you don't wear any underwear and love watching the men stare at you when you sit or bend over. Many couples love to show it off safely in adult clubs or in the great outdoors.

Having sex in front of a captive audience is always fun!

Have you had a fantasy of performing for an individual or a crowd of approving adults. Let us know the intimate details of your fantasy and we will do our best to make your fantasy a reality.

Maybe you want to try something risky?

If you would like us to take a special photo for you partner, we might be able to help.

Maybe your fantasy involves more than just removing your clothes. If you have a passion to try something erotic in front of your partner or for a group of men or women, email us with your plans.

If you looking for that special something for your birthday party or event and have a receptive group or ladies or men that could assist our individuals or couples fulfil their fantasy, drop us a note or drive by. We will maintain a list and do our best to match up fantasies with a matching audience.


Fetishes Including S&M

Some Fetishes Are Very Tame & Others?
Most lifestyle couples we know of have experimented with some form of light S&M. Some swingers do it for sexual pleasure, not pain, but with most S&M it is pain you are inflicting. Many couples have inflicted some form of pain on their partner, but it is important that it is informed, consensual, safe and voluntary. Never abuse your partner and keep within their limits.

Fetishes can include simple things like dress, body part obsessions, pain and many many more. We will try to introduce a few of the more common fetishes that you might have overheard or read about during your life. Many people have toe fetishes, cross dressing, gang bangs, inflicting pain or humiliation to name a few. Most fetishes refer to the sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

Golden Showers or Water Sports!

This is not something you see everyday!
But for some couples it is very erotic and a huge turn on.
Some people just love to get pissed off. Others like to tell their friends at work that they had friends over for the weekend and their friends just pissed on them all weekend long. Even when you tell the truth, people will not believe you!

Every couple we have ever known has experimented with something, oil, food, sex in the shower etc. and millions of other people in the world are experimenting on drugs and sex with children. It is one thing to have consenting adults do something to your body, but when you harm the innocence of a child, you need to be locked up!

The Pain Factor
Some people get very turned on to pain! If they are tied up, being submissive to a new DOM all the better in their opinion! Many endorphins are released when pain is inflicted.

Do You Watch The Hidden Cams?
Some Fetishes Include Voyeurism. Do you have spy cameras in your friends bedroom? Many people get off on just watching others perform. The sex industry on the internet is cashing in on this form of sexual satisfaction. EVERY swinger is a Voyeur to some degree, but swingers do not appreciate couples attending swing events to sit back and watch the show.

Fetish Clothing
Most Fetishes deal with clothing and dressing up in something HOT! Some outfits can be very revealing and others are not, it all depends what turns you on. Halloween is a great event for swingers to let their hair down and dress up


Bisexuality

Hints, Tips, Q&A
Helpful hints, tips and Q&A on how you can turn your BI fantasies into reality. Many ladies fantasize about trying a BI experience. Many men also fantasize about seeing their partner with another lady. This fantasy is one of the easiest fantasies to fulfill in the swinging lifestyle, mainly due to the fact that many ladies in the swinging lifestyle are bisexual and are very eager to help couples fulfill this fantasy, but if you are new to the lifestyle, your attempts will often fail. This is the hardest fantasy to fulfill if you are not members of a lifestyle club.

Looking For A Single BI Female?
We get asked this question hundreds of times a year by couples. Many couples struggle for years to find a single BI female with little or no luck! Single BI ladies willing to get together with a couple to share a MFF experience are rare! Out of desperation, many couples lie to other couples, by telling couples they are looking for a foursome, when in reality they are only looking for the BI lady for a FF or MFF experience. Please don't lie to couples to get what you want, it will not take long for your names to get passed around the swing community as a couple who play head games with other couples!

Bisexual ladies are plentiful in the swinging lifestyle and have been around for many generations, so why does it become difficult to connect? Primarily the swinging lifestyle is a couples sport. When you try to find matching singles (male or female) it becomes much more difficult. Many ladies who are new to the lifestyle want to try the BI experience FF or MFF, but don't want to share their partner with another lady or don't want another male present. Many times the male partner who is new to the lifestyle, does not want to share his female partner with any other male.

If there are so many bisexual ladies, why don't they want to play with us? The answer is very simple. Ask yourself this question we put to the lady of a couple who were looking for a BI female to play with them. Since you are bisexual and want to experiment in a MFF encounter, why don't you come and play with us? Her immediate response was, "I'm not leaving my husband or partner to go play with another couple!" So put yourself in the shoes of the other married BI ladies you have been trying to ask for a MFF with your partner or husband. If you are not willing to go play with another couple to experience a bisexual female, don't expect other ladies to jump to the occasion for your request.

Many ladies that are active in the lifestyle want to play primarily in foursomes first! Many threesomes or FF play is plentiful among active swing couples, but the SECRET is that they are sharing the experience as a couple.

If both of you as a couple, are not willing to share each other in a couples environment equally, your chances of arranging a FF or MFF experience are greatly reduced! We see and experience hundreds of FF or MFF encounters every year, but we are playing with active couples and share much more than just the FF or MFF encounters. The easiest and quickest way to experience a FF or MFF encounter is at larger swing parties, where 10 or more couples are engaging in group sexual activities, such as an on-premise club or a private house party.

DON'T put your female partner in any situation where she feels pushed or pressured to perform with another single of couple she does not feel comfortable with! Most FF or MFF encounters happen naturally at larger group parties without large scale attempts to plan the entire sexual event. You will have a great deal of fun and feel much more at ease in a larger group and with more experienced swingers, compared to meeting a new couple for the first time and trying to convince them you want a FF or MFF experience only.

If you lie to a couple to have the FF or MFF experience, the evening will not usually go very well and the couple you did this to will never get together with you again and will definitely pass your names around. Some couples wonder why they were able to get one FF or MFF experience and tell us they can't find any more willing couples or partners. If you have hurt a couple in the past, it does not take very long for you to run out of potential matches with other couples.

In many cases, couples are looking for a lady to be their little sex kitten for providing them with sexual pleasures. This is similar to single males asking for the same or asking couples in the lifestyle for what they want or what they can get for themselves out of the lifestyle. Swinging is primarily sharing of partners with other partners in a give and take adventure. Have you heard the saying Gimmee, Gimmee, Never Gets! When attitudes change to what have we got to offer another couple or the lifestyle, you will receive much more than your fantasies thought possible. What IS abundant in the lifestyle is COUPLES and most of the ladies are BI. Think of what you can offer other people, not what can we get from other couples.

Ask and you will receive!
Ladies will still want to feel comfortable with each other before experimenting. The larger the group of swing couples you are familiar with, the greater the chances of finding a matching participant.

A misconception by many people about BI women, is that most Bi women prefer female playmates over male playmates. The opposite is actually true. Most Bi women prefer men first! The Bi experience for most ladies is a bonus and is easily found in the swinging scene.

Bi Males, Not Gay or Homosexual!
Many people have the wrong impressions of a BI males or BI females. Gays or Homosexuals prefer their own sex first and foremost, but typically the BI male or BI female prefer the opposite sex first and foremost and the same sex as an extension of their sexual experimentation with the right person.

Just like the ladies who have fantasized about experimenting with the same sex, men are no different. The ladies can have a lot of fun with it, just like the men love watching you with another lady. Most of the male sexual play in clubs can be very subtle. You will see women suck on two cocks at the same time. If your cock is in the hot mouth of a new lady with her husbands cock in her mouth at the same time, very few men will say no! Some ladies love the feel of two cocks in their pussy at the same time. Three people having an orgasm at the same time is quite exciting and different. Mutual masturbation while their ladies play with each other.

Many men in our membership have expressed an interest in experimenting with the same sex. When the right conditions present themselves, they are open to try new things. Similar to BI ladies, the BI men prefer the opposite sex first and foremost! Experimenting with the right male partner is of secondary interest but if an opportunity arises, many men are open to try something at least once.

Many men and women in the swinging lifestyle are turned off by the thought of two men having intercourse with each other. Their is a growing acceptance of seeing some forms of sexual play between men. Experimenting in the swinging lifestyle can take many different forms of sexual play. If one male is rubbing the head of his penis on the clit of a horny lady, some men might love the feel of a male licking the head of his cock and licking the ladies clit at the same time.

Many women have fantasies of seeing their partner masturbate themselves in front of others, especially if another male is helping out.

Another fantasy for the ladies and the men is to masturbate another of the same sex. Many men are turned on to watch their ladies being played with by the same sex, the ladies are no different in wanting to watch another male play and get their male partner off.


Bondage

Have You Ever Been Tied To Your Bed?
Most lifestyle couples we know of have experimented with some form of B&D. Most swingers do it for sexual pleasure, not pain. Many groups today now refer to a term called Erotic Power Exchange (EPE).

Erotic power exchange is any situation where adult partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and too often confused with stereotypes and mental illnesses, which is why many lifestyle groups like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE).

Erotic power exchange can take any shape or form within a relationship. From little things like blindfolding a partner when making love to anything like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week dedication.

The shape and form it takes totally depends upon the fantasies, situation and boundaries of the partners involved. As long as it is informed consensual, safe, sane and voluntary it is called erotic power exchange. If any or all of these four elements are missing, it is called abuse!

Doing What You Are Told To Do!
Are you willing to be totally submissive to the DOM or Master?
You might be commanded to be the SEX TOY of the party!
"Resistance is futile!"

You must know your playmates limits!

Careful What You Wish For!
Have you ever wondered what that hot little lady would do to you if you let her tie you up? She might even let a few people play with you while she watches. Any man out there willing to let these two ladies be your Mistresses for a night?

Are You Wondering What is Cumming Next?
Do you dare give your partner this much control?
Many people love being held down firmly while making love, give it a try.

Blind Mans Cock Anyone?
Being blindfolded and partially restrained can be lots of fun for beginners. Try and find your partner among 10 different cocks.

Are You A Sub?
Many people love to play the submissive role in sexual play.
Do you like being told what to do and how to do it?
It can be very erotic to have a totally new partner telling you to do all the naughty stuff!

Do You Prefer To Be Mistress or Master?
Someone in total control can be a Mistress (lady) or Master (man).
Why do they call the internet the World Wide Web?
Have you heard the term WebMaster or WebMistress? (Makes you think, eh!)

The Dominator
She could make The Terminator look like childs play and she means business! Would you be willing to listen, or maybe you want to talk back? Have fun with your fantasies and take charge of a group of men slaves!

Prefer To Be A Slave?
She might even take you out for a walk and heal when told! Would you let a total stranger use you for a day? All the sexual things you might be told to do to her and her friends!

Be Careful & Do What Your Told
Some Mistresses or Masters might not be this understanding! It is nice to find some old pics of early discipline. People say that our parents were behind the times!

Tell The Truth!
When your friends ask you if you are free for the weekend, tell the truth!
"Sorry, I'm all tied up for this weekend!"

Think about this statement, the next time someone tells it to you!?

Dungeons & Playrooms
We know of a number of couples and clubs that have private dungeons or playrooms.
The equipment is expensive and many couples or clubs make their own.

For details please call 087 185 4488